i think the problem with eridan and feferi is that basically everyone has felt the pain of an unrequited crush on a dear friend, but a lot less people have been in the suffocating and terrifying position of playing emotional support system to a dangerous and unstable guy, year in and year out, hoping they grow up and watching as they never do they just keep making threats to keep you too scared to dump them, but they love you, they need you, you make them a better person, you make them, they can’t do it without you, don’t leave. don’t ever leave. they don’t know what they’d do if you left. something bad. so don’t.
so like, a ton of people, by thirteen or fourteen, have felt eridan’s pain. it’s easy to be really sympathetic to him! it’s awful and sick and humiliating to need someone who doesn’t want you, it’s genuinely one of the worst feelings.
but a lot less people, and mostly girls, and mostly around late adolescence or early adulthood, have gone through feferi’s situation and come out the other side. and some girls never get out of that situation. some girls die in it. feferi died in it. she was brave and kind and ambitious and wanted the best for people, and she got shot for being her own person instead of her ex’s.
so like, just saying, that is seriously a factor that needs to be considered about feferi and eridan’s relationship. that is something you need to think about before you say eridan was the misunderstood victim of their relationship. it sucks to love someone who doesn’t love you back. but it sucks harder to hold on to that someone until they break from it.
Tagged: #I've never had an unrequited crush #I can understand it's painful but I've never experienced it #But I have been the thread of support for someone who was on the edge of snapping #I guess I'm lucky in that I kept the boundaries relatively clear #And he needed me more than he needed me to return his feelings #Because I did care #It's heartbreaking #And terrifying #I mostly focused on teaching him I guess #Teaching him to care for other people #Teaching him how to make other friends #Teaching him how to deal with feelings #There's a certain almost professional distance necessary #And sometimes he'd say or do something #And I was scared he was going to crack #He talked about a lot of things #A lot of terrifying things #Not threatening me #Never threatening me actually #Not even threatening my friends #Because he cared about me #But other people #People not attached #People I tried to get him to understand mattered too